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Inspired Sunday: The Man With Five Little Children

Shout out to all the single parent out there. God bless you all.

I saw one man in the church today with five little children in his hands. The last one is around eight months and the first around nine years; difficult stage for mothers you may say and this man is playing this role all by himself.
I asked myself questions like, where is the mother to these children? Working on Sunday? De@d? Travelled?
I looked at the man with premature grey hair and a gloomy face.
And why are his children’s clothes squeezed out of shape and why the boys hair and even his own unkempt? Why are the girls dressed in skirt and blouse that do not agree with each other and why are they all eating chocolate upon chocolate till the end of service?
I was cracking my brain when someone said that his wife, the mother to those children di£d while birthing the eight month old baby in his hands.
I felt pity for him. Who will help him? Who will take care of those kids like their mother?
What a life!
But I saw one thing in that man; a man determined to take the bull by the horn and play the role of both mother and father for a while.
Motherhood like fatherhood is hard. Now think of being both as a single parent.

Hope you’re having a great Sunday. Have a wonderful week ahead.

For Those Who Fix Their Eyes On Fat Dough

I lie where I failed, asleep in the pool of my blank sheets. But I must sit up now, pick my pen and trace my root.


Imagine you’re stressing yourself out every day of your life, putting in all the efforts, resourses and energy in your job, just to keep food on the table. JUST to keep food on the table! As if life is all about food – I know, food is as important as life itself, yet, I refuse to shove aside these other things like being able to own luxury houses, buy designers clothes, shoes, bags and stuff like that, going to the best hospital for medical attention and buying any of the posh cars in town.

And do stuff like going on vacation to most relaxing destinations and seeing the amazing places of the world.

For those who constantly keep their eyes on their dough and how lean or fat it is, working for peanuts can be a daunting task

I call myself a teacher, a guilty one who can’t be a part of nation’s future building anymore because I wanted a fat dough.

Yes, a fat dough means I could cater for my needs without shedding blood through my eyes.

But teaching is the most fulfilling job I’ve ever had the chance to do, but each time I set eyes on my monthly alert, sighs escaped my lips.

I found teaching in my country frustrating! And when I left, I swore to never go back, at least not here.

I’m not frustrated by the teaching profession itself because I enjoyed my time with those children and even now I feel like I have left my call in pursuit of nothing.

But there was nothing I could do to keep myself in the position where I could be a part of the great future of these brilliant, bright eyed, carefree children.

Teachers are painfully underpaid both in public and private schools. You will see teachers getting between 20, 000 and 70,000 naira as monthly salary. That is approximately between $50 to $170 a month, less than a weeks expenses for family of four.

For those who are lucky enough to miraculously find a teaching job with over 100 thousand ( I heard there’s a school which pays its teachers a whopping 300, 000 or $724, God bless them) there is no need to grumble. You are completely rewarded.

By the way, I was offered a teaching job in United Arab Emirates with good working condition and 3,600 AED (407, 000 naira) to teach kindergarten, I thought it was too small and murmured. When I returned to my country and the first school I got interviewed in told me they would start me off with 25, 000 naira, I went mad and I asked myself question like, what have I done wrong?

The school I’m talking about has its students tuition at 60, 000 naira per term and with 34 students in the class, I deserved not less than 50 000 a month which would be 150,000 a term. Not that it was enough for my expenses but I would have managed it.

By the way the minimum amount a parent with three kids like me spends on feeding alone here can be placed around 40, 000 and you must keep it extremely well managed you know, like having your tape, balances and measuring cups for every ingredient, otherwise, you will have yourself to blame.

While some private schools with high standards pay applaudable sum to their teachers on monthly bases, some pay near to nothing, especially if you are not a “proper teacher” ( a proper primary teacher should be licenced to teach with NCE, BEd, MEd or DrEd or whatever it’s called.

Yet, with your Bsc and BA and postgraduate Diploma in fields other than education, you’re the well sort after in primary schools because they know you’re less qaulified and thereby less expensive. Having a quick 1 year teaching course does not make you a proper teacher here.

So what adds to your worth is definitely the Education specialty. You must have 3 to 4 years course in education to be qualified to open your mouth and say that you are underpaid, otherwise your mouth should remain zipped. After all no one is forcing you to follow that path.

I’ve made my research and I’ve found top ten countries places where teachers feel well rewarded. According to Forbes, these countries are trying hard for their teachers

Countries Average Salary(annual)

Swtzerland $110,000

Luxembourg $98,000

Canada $56,000

Germany $64,000

Netherlands $60,000

Australia $61,000

United States $60,000

Ireland $53,000

Austria $50,000

Denmark $52,000

It then means that teachers are not underpaid after all. At least not in the above countries.

And we expect teachers to get out of their countries and go to where they’re valued rigjt?

Yes?

But the thing is, they are not rich enough to get out of the country. If you consider the financial aspect of getting out of the country.

And I think they should stay and build the nation, for the sake of these children, fixing their eyes on God for heavenly reward.

I wish things changed for teachers for good.

Florence Ezekafor

The Thing About Loving An Enemy

Can you easily swallow a medium sized rough stone? Yes? Then you can easily love someone who hates, spites and always looks for a way to bring you down.

Unrepentant enemies are likely not to give a damn about your love; just like those who crucified Jesus.

Before they crucified Jesus, they took his lovely garment and expose his nakedness.

As he hung on the cross fighting for his life, they made mockery of him.


Yeah, they mocked him!

But, Jesus, before he gave up the ghost on the cross of calvary, did forgive and prayed for the same people who exposed his nakedness to the world and nailed him to the humiliating cross even though their teeth were all over the place mocking him.

They mocked him the more when he said, ‘Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.’


They didn’t even notice the love and forgiveness in that statement. They didn’t care if he loved them or hated them.


But to Jesus, they were the lost sheep of Isreal. For their sake he came, and even though they were a party to his death, he forgave them.

He forgave Judas as well even though he couldn’t beat taking his own life.

That’s an extraordinary human.

So when I hear forgiving or loving an unrepentant enemy, Jesus comes to mind. There is something extraordinary in what Jesus did. It’s not just forgiveness.

Forgiveness Is not Love

If it were, it would be a lot easier for us to love an enemy.

Loving an enemy goes beyond forgiveness. It entails the show of mercy; genuin and an undeserving compassion.

But to get past the difficult stage of loving an enemy, there is need to assume that such enemy does not know what he’s doing. 😳😳You know, like assuming that he does not know that fire consumes human flesh and leaps into it. Instinct tells you to save them.

Thinking of fire…..

Loving an enemy is like seeing someone who wants you dead in a burning house and jumping into it to save him. Hahaha. That’s it. (Don’t worry. You wouldn’t die in the process. Both of you would be safe.)

I tell you that if you could do that for an enemy, he would repent and would begin to look at you with a different eye; a loving eye.

But be careful with an enemy though, lest he traps and destroys you.

Happy Sunday to you.

Florence

Love and a Cup of Coffee Taste Better When Hot – Ethiopian Proverb

When people fall in love, they are ready to do anything for love; jump off the cliff, sleep on stones, freeze in icy weather, swim to the end of an ocean and jump into the blazing furnace. But how many survive the test of time? Only a few.

Romeo and Juliet’s love was a kind of hot, fresh love. They were in love for only four days before they met their death. That’s what I call hot love. And it’s a kind of foolish, thoughtless love. This kind of love does not allow any level of reasoning to manifest itself. It stiffens the mind and prevents it from thinking about consequences or future complications.

If Romeo and Juliet lived older, they might not love each other enough to die. Fresh love is always sweet love, pleasant love.

That’s where most lovers want to remain. But it’s hard.

It’s hard to keep love in its fresh or hot state. Circumstances surrounding life and individual complications make it more difficult.

As time passes, those who walked hand in hand in their kitchen and bathrooms vow to give up an eye to be free from each other. Separation; gives them the space they needed to be able to remain sane as a couple when divorce isn’t an option.

But this kind of love is always the fake kind of love, love built on what the eyes can see which even the things that eyes can see hardly sustain. Love built on beauty, sex and money is the worst kind of love. It melts like wax and evaporates into nothingness within a short period.

But there is a kind of love that doesn’t grow cold no matter what it’s exposed to. Yes! There are couples whose relationships are old but still feel like yesterday.

When people fall in love for the right reasons, love grows deeper and hotter. They are ready to sacrifice for each other, endure for each other and use anything in their power to renew their love each day. They respect each other’s feelings and do not rely on their feelings to make it work. For love should go beyond what we feel. If we rely on feelings to keep love alive, love dies off when whatever we feel fades away.